Rule 1: I don’t tell you what to do or how to act because I don’t want you doing that to me.
So this article is meant as a conversation to suggest the proper way for us to address each other, and I am willing to listen carefully to your reply so we can reach a mutual agreement because that’s fair. We keep saying we need to have “robust conversation,” but we never do, and nobody ever will; so let’s go for it because we need to resolve this before we end up destroying our country. Neither one of us wants that.
Those vivil unspoken rules about not talking religions or politics on the table only prevent for issues to be solved for a night of superficial peace. That’s not helping anyone. I’ll be strong for you if you are willing to be strong for me as we each judge each other. We would be doing so, just without letting each other know anyway.
Rule 2: it is not racist to talk generalities about your own race publicly, let alone privately as you are willing to hurt yourself because you believe what you have to say is worth it, so that takes courage as well. The rest of the people of your race should be accepting of your judgement because they will only be taking half of the damage as they won’t need to invest the energy of working out the courage to confront said self-criticism.
I will be talking as a Mexican, to an American here. I will not be talking about my person, as talking about individuals has nothing to do with racism. So I am every Mexican now. Let’s establish the parameters to be measured in order to figure out who is better: IQ, culture and morality; mind, body and soul respectively.
As every Mexican, my IQ is 88. Yours is 98. You win.
Rule 3: you can not force your cultural believes over other cultures, or you would be violating my sovereignty as people.
Your culture takes my nationality as a race for some reason (my race would be “mestizo,” half Aztec and half Spaniard.) In my culture, “Mexican” refers to nationality, the country you were born into. It is clearly stated on your birth certificate and that’s that, no matter what color you are. The only exception is naturalization, if you become a Mexican citizen later on; but it is always stated in the registry. There is no getting confused. Every Mexican person is registered in the Civic Registry of Mexico. And yes, that means that you need to figure out some new category for “Mexican Americans” because if they are not in said registry, they are not Mexican. I repeat: if they are not listed in the Registro Civil de México, then no matter how many tacos and burritos you eat, whose blood you have inside; you are just not Mexican.
Good. Now that we won’t have non-Mexicans claiming that what I say about myself isn’t true as now they realize they don’t have a claim to the pseudo-race, as every Mexican I can tell you about my culture. I expect to be lied to in about 70% of what my compatriots say to me, and I allow myself to do the same as that’s the expected norm, and I don’t question it because I like it. I fail to consider other people, even my own family when deciding whether or not to commit any legal or moral crimes because is convenient to me and the excuse “everybody does it” is good enough for my people as long as it’s nobody within authority that catches me in the act. I am familiar with the word “principles” and I know it has something to do with “being good,” but I don’t really know what it means and it’s something I will never think about. The way I deal with my negative emotions is by drinking away the pain, or getting high. I realize I am oppressed, but I do not believe in fairness, so I think is best to stay in my current situation because it’s better than taking a chance of it being me who gets hurt by being in some sort of opposition to our narco-government. If I see one of our people, the non-elite Mexicans, being successful in any way, I will do everything in my power to prevent him from becoming better than me because that will make me question my mediocre conformity, and it hurts. And above all, I detest honesty and it is engraved on my brain that you can never know what the real truth is if I never ever tell. So I won’t.
Alright, your turn.
Rule 4: do not extend generalized criticism directly to somebody you don’t know of another race because there is nothing he can do to change the rest of his group.
You can offer all the criticism you want to anybody of any race because it is implied that you are either directing a racially-based moral fault to an individual, which does not count as racism because you are dealing with an individual’s affairs; or that you are talking about the other members of that person’s race, but not that individual in particular, hence you need not to worry about offending that person.
The only reason to extend a racial criticism to and individual which includes that person along with the rest of the group, is to hurt that individual; which you ought not to do due to the rules of common civility. If you feel the need to do so, please grow up by training yourself on controlling your emotions, and learn about civil societies so you can stop being a nuisance in general.
Rule 5: It is okay to extend racially-based criticisms to any one particular member of that race because it’s either dealing with an individual, or because that person is not included, which means you are not really generalizing. “Most” is not “all.” So you know there are exceptions, hence no racism.
So, who wins on Culture? Who cares, you are in either one or the other, and you are meant to integrate into your host culture and adapt to it; so either better or worse, you still have to adopt it.
In Mexico, starving to death is not a metaphor. We are used to being very hard working people because it is the norm to not make enough, or barely enough to survive, so it’s not a choice. We are definitely being oppressed and taken advantage of by a narco-government controlled by drug cartels. All of there are fine reasons to lower your moral standards.
Since it’s not your fault, however, they are not justifications to act immorally towards you by crossing illegally into your country and take advantage of the benefits you work so hard to make available to your compatriots.
So it is not in any way acceptable for me to live perpetually as a criminal with every breath I take. So you win.
Two to zero. You are better than me. And I won’t ever get to be as good as you as long as you keep treating me as your inferior by extending undeserved benefits, especially when I am unethically taking them away from you without your consent.
That being resolved. So what? My tacos are better than your pseudo-tacos. We all have pros and cons. And no matter how much better somebody is, we are all worth the same as human beings and we all have the same rights. So as long as we can be aware of that, and we can be strong enough to accept ourselves so we don’t need to lie to others, I hope we can become friends because it is beneficial for us both, pragmatically, spiritually and emotionally.
I’m glad we had “the talk.” Wasn’t so hard, was it? Back to being me.
I am not taking anybody’s denial about the reality of Mexicans in Mexican culture. I live here and I have to deal with it every God damn day. Especially with any Mexican Americans who may think that their blood carry some know-it-all gene and that’s how he knows what living here is like; because the horrors of Mexico are not on the physical dimension. You can only notice them through time. And most Mexicans don’t even do because they subconsciously choose to live willfully ignorant about it as a way to cope with the hardships.
Hey, at least it’s better than to escape to become a criminal leech in a generous first-world country, leaving what you now claim to be “your people” behind. Go ahead, tell me about how honorable you are. I could use a laugh.
Other than that, as I said, I am open to dialogue with anybody interested. We ought to be better worldly companions than this. We should not become conformists and just accept to deal with the cognitive dissonance of believing we are so superior than our parents, yet acting like cavemen when dealing with the people we need to share our surroundings with.
I thank you greatly for taking the time of day to read this.