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yup because women sexual orientation is not taken as seriously. and also because men being curious is way more frowned upon.

Personally, I don't like that in today's climate, people try to separate a bisexual's sexuality into "sexual" attraction and "romantic" attraction. I don't like that "split attraction" model because it paints a picture of an "unreliable" sexual orientation, and that feeds into a lot of stereotypes about bisexuality and what it is to be bisexual. As a bisexual myself, I find it offensive if someone assumes that I only like having sex with women once in a while, but ultimately want to end up with a man. You don't choose who you feel attracted to or fall for, either you feel a "zing" or you don't. It's not any more complicated than that, and I'm tired of people trying to complicate a very simple truth. That's not to say that there aren't plenty of people out there who call themselves bisexual without being genuinely bisexual, or who are bicurious at best, which is a whole other issue on its own, but that's another story.

It's generally accepted that women are more sexually open minded than men, but I feel that it's about even on either side. Women are just more open about expressing it, whereas men tend to keep keep it more to themselves. And bicurious men aren't rare at all - they're just as common as bicurious women. It's just that male sexuality is more stigmatized then a woman's, and because of that, men are less comfortable addressing it openly. Stigma in regards to a dude's sexuality is starting to change, but unfortunately, it's a stigma that's alive and well. That being said, if a man entertains sexual or erotic fantasies about other men, does that make him potentially bisexual or gay, or just a straight man curious of something outside of his preference? Like they say, you never know unless you try. On the other hand, some men call themselves bisexual without experiencing intimacy with another man. They DO experience honest attraction, but for whatever reason, it isn't consummated. That still makes him a bisexual, because he acknowledges that he has those feelings, even if they remain physically unconsummated.

With women, it's generally more accepted for them to experiment sexually, but they experience pretty heavy stigma as well. If a bisexual woman pursues another woman, she's often accused of "only" experimenting, or "going through a lesbian phase", or anything else that invalidates her attraction or relationship with another woman as a genuine thing. A big problem is that a woman's sexuality isn't taken very seriously, especially if she identifies as queer. Lesbians and bisexual women experience this all the time from society, as not being taken seriously for same sex attraction. Again, that stigma is lessening, but it's still prevalent.

I'm sorry if this sounds somewhat unclear, I'm functioning on 3 hours of sleep and I'm tired AF lol

I know with the romance aspect, it is because we teach that men aren’t romantic. That they only want sex. If it isn’t about sex, why would those guys be together?

But women... they’re the romantic ones. The ones capable of such feelings. They form emotional bonds and that can lead to physical attraction.

Women are allowed to be more physically affectionate to their friends, braiding each other’s hair, hugging, the cheek kiss. It’s only a small step to experimentation.

(leftwing take To me this feels like misogyny and homophobia. Not in like "I hate women, I hate gay people" way, but like the views that lead to that. Mainly "women are unreliable" and "(male) homosexuality is essential".

The first is easier. The people with kernels of misogyny in our brains (regardless of if we are "misogynists" or not) will disregard women's experiences, just out of habit, because thats one of the things misogyny programs us to do: to instinctively disregard women's experiences because we consider them unreliable narrators.

Now the second is a tad harder but it seems to me that homophobia has another one of these assumptions: "homosexuality is essential, one drop in a million makes you gay". I think this is partly because of and caused by the way that heterosexual men are often very defensive of their sexuality and their not being gay. It means that as soon as men do anything "gay" they are seen "as gay". Think of how taunting works in school or groups of mates for an example.

The reasons for these are deep and I'm getting bored but also maybe I'm completely wrong, thats just my outlook so there you go

[clarification:] I'm not saying people who think these things or have these assumptions are misogynists/homophobes, more thats the effect of each on our psychology and society.