I have had many friends in both parties and have had respect for their views even when I haven’t agreed fully with their perspective, but now I would have to say I’m neither democrat nor republican; I’m a conservative that can no longer trust politicians on either side. The only exception is that I now understand that if it is something the democrats are for, it is likely wrong, harmful and even evil. A neighbor that was until recently my closest friend is a democrat. I would still do nearly anything for him, but I no longer trust him. I’m concerned that he would turn me in to the tyrants as an anti-Vaxer and anti-masker if he were asked to do so. So I guess the DemonBrat party has succeeded, to that extent, in dividing the people and increasing their power.
You can have views across both right and left. For example: support legalized drugs, open international borders, no taxes globally, abortion allowed, but female must abort if man doesn't want the baby, no welfare programs, everyone works/contributes to society, eliminate all laws that initiate violence, etc. These go across both left and right views.
If you gauge the polarization of America on social media, you'd likely think we're mere minutes away from all-out civil war. But in practice, it is not a mischaracterization to say the vast majority are blissfully ignorant to the sheer levels of partisanship going on.
Why? Well, for starters, there really is no such thing as a "red state" or a "blue state;" if you break down voting tendencies by county, the high population urban centers are left-leaning and pretty much everything else is right-leaning. This means that if you're in the city, you probably live and work in the city and hang out with other people who live and work in the city. And if you're not in the city, well, you MIGHT commute to work in the city, but you don't live or play there; you go in, do your job, and then go home.
This means that the vast majority of people are spending their off hours in communities that largely think exactly the same way they do. If you're urban, you hang out with other urban people, and you all probably think conservatives are the problem. If you're suburban or rural, you hang out with other suburban/rural people and you think progressives are the problem.
Then on top of that, our media is tailor-made to cater to one bias or another. So if you're the urban person, you're probably watching CNN and reading the NY Times and think FOX News & OANN are a bunch of racist liars. Conversely, if you're not urban, you're watching FOX and reading the Daily Wire and you think the progressive mainstream media is utterly insane.
So I think it's fair to say that most people don't immediately feel that the country is polarized; they think that most of the country agrees with them and that there are simply some loud, dishonest malcontents making trouble for everyone.
I don't have a political party. I'm an American Patriot first and foremost. I don't vote in pay lines. But yes I'm reasonable and use thought not blind obedience to political labels. Anything or anyone who exposes the right values I can support. Trump is my president. Lying cheating bastards are most politicians. Saying whatever to get elected. F'em