If you want them to fail, tell them they’re a victim. The best prison is our own mind. If you love them, tell them they’re responsible for themselves.
Yes, tell them they are victims and they will spend their lives angry at the world and expecting to be victimized but never succeeding because victims don’t succeed. Give them many handouts because they’re not capable of earning for themselves. Next promise them reparations for their victimization. Your job is now done