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A question, with all due respect to the married couples out there with children; does marriage always have to be all about reproducing? What about those of us, like myself, who are simply not "kid people" and simply seek someone to share a life together with? Are we to be denied the joys, pains, and frustrations of marriage simply because we don't want kids? I've been married and divorced once already, and in hindsight I was nowhere near ready for that (keeping in mind that it didn't help that my ex is batshit loco), but at my age currently I'm at a point where I'd consider it again with the right person. But again, does it always have to be about reproducing and not much else?

MaskedRiderChris 7 Oct 31
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Personally I think marriage is first and foremost about two people making a commitment to each other. The only thing I would disagree with about not having kids would be using abortion as a means of birth control. Personally being a father was a very important consideration in my life. Sadly I was young, and stupid and chose the wrong woman to have kids with. I went down that path of choosing a partner that had suffered a psychotic break from reality.

The only thing I would suggest as far as getting married is making sure your intended spouse has the same idea about parenting. As cliche as it is, honesty is the best policy.

Oddly enough my youngest kiddo just broke up with her boyfriend because they have oppsoing thoughts about having kids. She wants them, he doesn't, but siad he may change his mind in 15 years or so. She is not willing to wait and see if he does. Kind of made me sad because I really liked the guy, but I am glad they were both adult enough to face that situation head on.

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Thank you for being open in sharing your thoughts.
It is your choice to make, but with many others with the same attitude and the large numbers of abortions, the "replacement" numbers ae falling. When they get below 1.6 births to deaths, the race will disappear.
Have you asked yourself, why you do not want children? hedonism, abuse as a child, spiritual, emotional issues?
I only ask because I chose not to have children. Now at an advanced age I realize it was due to being abused, physically and mentally, as a child that led to my believing that iI was a failure (low self-esteem) and could not support a family. That was a lie I had accepted. You? Sounds like your first marriage consisted of two wounded people who could never bring healing to another as each one was trying to get the other spouse to heal them?

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