And then you stick a photo of whatever it is with purple spiked hair with the sides shaved off and with a beard, and a skirt on, and a man's shirt and African rings in their nose and toes, and covered in tattoos, and I stop and try to work out, is it male or female or just an it. After some time, find it to be a female, how the beard come about is anyones guess, maybe it was stuck on!! As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing like a feminine female and a masculine male, at least you know what you've got then!! I wish you well.