So I have been reading such great posts in this community and I wanted to thank many of you. I'm a trans woman freshly post op now and I wish anyone who truly needs to transition can. For the first time ever I took a picture where I actually liked how I looked. I wasn't bad looking young, but even then being trans I never felt good about how I looked. I wish more trans activists would see the harm they are doing to women and to other transwomen. I never wanted special treatment, I just want to be seen as a woman. I don't want to hurt or make any women uncomfortable, I just want to be safe and feel like I belong as best as I can.
Anyway, thanks to all of you who have had to bear the label of Terf.
I want to be honest and not lie about how I really feel. To me transwomen fit into a special category. I have NO ISSUE with transwomen using my bathrooms, joining women's clubs, being called "she/her", etc. Where I draw the line is locker rooms, prisons, sexual trauma or domestic abuse crisis centers, and sports. There is a reason why women fought for those spaces to be sex-segregated. Everyone says that no one is raped in bathrooms. Except they have been. Women have been raped by transwomen in prison. Women have been raped or beaten by transwomen in shelters, too. Many of these so-called transwomen don't even bother to transition! Some literally change their pronouns based on how they feel that day and they receive the same legal protections and benefits as you.
I didn't come out of the box drawing these lines in the sand. I actually campaigned for trans rights in the beginning. No one should be fired or denied housing due to a transition. When I saw women's spaces, our words, our health services being colonized I had to stand up.
We fought to not have our vaginas referred to as "holes" by men and now there are HRC materials that call our vagina's front holes because it upsets transwomen to hear otherwise. I am being told that I have to identify as "cis" so people know where I stand in regards to my gender. I don't even believe in gender!
I want to be kind. I want to be kind to you. It's very difficult when I hear people say that JK Rowling should die or that Magdalen Berns deserved to die for being a TERF. I've been threatened with rape by transwomen activists--raped with a bat, btw. It's kind of difficult at that point to not put up barriers of protection when you are very real physical danger--especially in liberal areas where I'm seen as a TERF and abuse to me would be considered "unsympathetic."
Us TERFs are the new Trump voters to the left.
You're a great example for the trans community and just people in general. I appreciate your concern and I am also grateful that you take the time to chat to me about issues that affect us both! I have to take a million pictures before I'm happy with one that I think is at least half decent, no matter how much someone tries to reassure me that its fine. So I feel your pain!